My husband is dating online, what should I do? I really love him.

"My husband and I are very much in love. He is a good-tempered person and can be considered a good man. However, recently, he has been engaged in online dating. The reason is that not long ago, I contacted my first love and then said what I had suppressed in my heart. When my husband saw it, he flew into a rage and didn't sleep for two days and one night. He really misunderstood and didn't listen to my explanation."(That person is my cousin, so it's absolutely impossible for us to be together.) Later, he said that he didn't misunderstand. I just confided in him. I never thought of leaving my husband. Because after I said that, I realized that the person I loved the most was my husband. I never forgot my first love. It's been eight years, so it's a pity. Now, there's nothing. Everything is back to normal, but my husband has changed. Ever since then, he has been saying that as long as you're happy, you can do whatever you want. Even if you have sex with someone else, I won't blame you. As long as you remember to go home, I wonder if he doesn't care anymore or is he really that magnanimous? I wanted to live a good life, but he changed and started chatting. I chatted with girls younger than me. I wouldn't talk about normal things, but it was really too much. We talked about love, and he even asked for a phone number. He even said that he wanted to charge the phone bill. I was so angry that I wanted to kill him. I always said that he didn't misunderstand me. But what was he doing now? It was really too much. I asked him why he was doing this. He said,"Can you leave me alone?" I promise I'm just playing…It was really ridiculous that he could not control his feelings. He could love or not love as he wished. How could that be? A lot of feelings came from chatting. He didn't listen. I was really an impulsive person. If I didn't solve it, I didn't know what I would do. It was really difficult to get together with him back then. I lost everything for him. My reputation and relatives blamed me for being disobedient. I even hurt my mother's heart badly. I didn't have what other people's wives should have. He had nothing in his pursuit of me. But I chose him because I loved him more. I also believed that he wouldn't make me sad, but now…Therefore, every time he thought of this, his anger would rise and he could not control it. Loving you at all costs in exchange for this result, how can you do this to me…She really hated him. She had followed him at the age of 17. Now that I'm 22 and have a child, I really have the urge to kill someone... So, please help me analyze what his mentality is, and how I should solve it. In the past, I always helped others solve it, but now I don't have any thoughts. As the saying goes, people who are involved can't see it. Please.

Answer 1

If her husband had an online relationship, she might feel uneasy and confused. As much as he loves you, his actions may not always be safe. In this case, there are a few suggestions that can help you deal with this situation.

He tried to communicate first. Try to be honest with your husband and tell him your feelings and concerns. Ask him why he started dating online and his thoughts and feelings about it. Tell him that you still love him, but you want him to be more cautious and avoid any potential risks.

Consider seeking professional help. If you feel that you can't cope with the situation or your husband's behavior is beyond your control, consider seeking professional help. A psychologist or marriage counselor can help you deal with this situation by providing support and guidance.

Stay calm. Although you may feel angry or disappointed, you need to remain calm and deal with the situation rationally. Don't make drastic decisions or say things that will hurt you or your husband.

And remember that your husband still loves you. Even if he has started dating online, he may still choose to return to your side. The key is to maintain confidence and take appropriate measures to protect yourself and your family.