Epilogue

In October 2022, Aleesha bought Vera a 6-inch dildo. Aleesha had sent her pictures of different dildos and asked her to choose her preference. Vera picked a soft silicone dildo. She summoned courage and used the dildo on herself.

First, she watched a pornographic movie. As she watched the movie, she poured some lubricant on her genitalia and rubbed gently with her fingers. She rubbed the dildo with some lubricant too. She inserted the dildo gently and to her amusement, the dildo found its way through her—seamlessly! No pain, no blood! She was already open the whole time but she was too scared to discover! She thrusted the dildo in her vagina to be sure and she started to feel the dildo touch her cervix. Perfect! Problem solved! Now, she will go find a real dick to hop on!

Guys, if you won't be gentle with her on her first time— please, don't attempt to do the work. Ladies, if you doubt his capability— please, don't allow him be your first timer. Vera doesn't want any other lady to suffer her fate. She feels her story is a bizarre and embarrassing one. She is too ashamed to narrate it in public, that's why she is hiding behind a keyboard to enlighten everybody. If you are sexually active, you can still be helpful by recommending this book to female virgins you know.

She would have never thought PTSD could arise from consented sex; but look at how long she bore that effect for — a year and a half. Movies played a part in her ignorance. They made it look like a girl getting willingly disvirgined is a two-minute task where she just twists her face in little discomfort and the pain evades like that. Virginity is always talked about in the society; how it's a moral conduct, or tribal requirement, or religious devotion, but we are not educated enough about how losing virginity should be trailed. Several guys claim they didn't know which hole to insert their penis in, on the first day they had sex — another effect of youths being uninformed about the subject.

The assumption Vera had that anal sex would even be easier than vaginal sex articulates ignorance. Sex— sexual positions and erotic tricks, are frequently discussed on social media but rarely does anyone talk about the challenges faced on the first time. It's true to say not only females are bound to face challenges on their first attempt at sex, guys are prone to face confusion too. I believe we should do better. Awareness should be created on the challenges, do's and don'ts, pros and cons of first time sex.