Episode 4 (The formula of happiness)

I am the girl who is constantly looking for answers to either unanswered common questions or unanswered rare and weird questions.

One the biggest question that took me long 3 years of heart breaks, constant struggles and pretending to be perfect and strong while i was completely shattered was How to feel happy?

millions of others want the answer of this same question but despite spending their whole lives they are clueless.

Even i was clueless until.....yesterday.

I belong to a region where Rain is rare.

we do have water all year but rain is rare. so it's a tradition or more like a fun activity for people to soak themselves wet if it rains.

and yesterday it rained!

i was standing in the rain and despite it being hella cold i was in it as long it continued

My exams are next month and i am studying like nuts for them and nothings seems to make me laugh and feel happy during this time

But yesterday when i was in rain It took me 30 minutes to realize that i was laughing and grinning like a maniac.

i was so carried away by the moment that i didn't knew that the question is was looking for was answered.

after the rain ended i took a warm shower and just sat outside enjoying the cool winds.

I was still smiling but not only me but my father and brother who also soaked in the rain and now were enjoying the wind were smiling

looking at them i asked why were they smiling?

Because they were happy!

why was i smiling? because i was happy too!

But why was i happy?

For soaking in the rain?

That can't be.

i take a shower almost every single day

Almost...hehe!

At that moment i realized that i was happy because i wanted to be

Happiness is a choice.

happiness is your choice.

there was no need of any special event heck any event to be the cause of my happiness.

sure good events brings happiness but life isn't always rainbows and butterflies.

i have exams next month which i would pass or not isn't confirmed.

yet i was happy because i choose to be happy.

the rain was just an encouragement for me to feel it, to choose it.

i also realized one more thing.

Your happiness is your responsibility.

its selfish expecting someone else or something else to make you happy while you can't even do it yourself.

people find happiness in different things i personally don't find happiness in materialistic things.

i find it in long walks, reading, writing this book and people praising comments and reviews....wink wink!

But the fun fact is you only want to be happy when you feel sad

there are 3 states of human moods.

1 Happy

2 neutral

3 sad

majority of the time your mood is neutral.

you don't crave for happiness when you are in neutral you crave it when you are sad.

Its okay to feel sad because sometimes.... no not sometimes all time life sucks.

But do you know how to be happy all the time?

since a person can't always have good things happening to them they should start finding happiness in others happiness.

because if you aren't not happy doesn't mean they can't be or aren't happy.

how to happy in their happiness.

Your neighbors son topped an exam.

Wow! contrate him. praise him. encourage him. feel his happiness.

your co worker became a father!

Great! congratulate him. ask how his wife is doing. buy a small present for his baby.

just feel what they are feeling.

Its just like burrowing where instead of things you are borrowing emotions.

be happy in little things.

remember Happiness is simple

we are the one who complicates it