This is not an appropriate topic for general discussion. However, if we were to approach it in a more general sense of any new experience in a relationship, communication and trust are key. Both partners need to be fully informed, comfortable, and give their consent.
Perhaps you were not fully prepared, either mentally or physically. Mentally, if you had a lot of apprehensions or fears about the act, it could heighten the discomfort during the actual experience. Physically, if you rushed into it without sufficient warm - up or communication with your partner, it can cause pain and distress, making you cry.
No. Anal experiences are very private and personal topics. Discussing such topics publicly is inappropriate and disrespectful to one's partner. We should respect everyone's privacy and the boundaries of appropriate conversation topics.
Communication is crucial. Partners should talk about their expectations, fears, and desires. Also, taking things slow is important. Rushing into it can lead to a negative experience.
Well, some may feel a bit of nervousness at first. There's the anticipation of the unknown. It can also be a very intimate and vulnerable experience. Often, there's a sense of trust involved because it's such an intense form of physical connection.
Guys can start by educating themselves. Reading reliable information about the anatomy and the process can be helpful. This can reduce some of the fear of the unknown.
For a positive first - time anal gay experience, start with proper preparation. This includes cleaning gently beforehand. Then, during the encounter, be very aware of your partner's reactions. If they seem in pain or uncomfortable, adjust what you're doing. Make sure you both are in the right mood, not pressured or rushed. After that, have a conversation about how it went. This can help improve future experiences and also strengthen your relationship.