my wife wants a divorce

I'm just a person who loves reading novels and haven't actually read novels, so I can't answer 'It's Not Me'.

There are multiple risks associated with a threesome when your wife desires it. Emotionally, it can create insecurities not only between you and your wife but also with the third person. There could be a power dynamic shift that you might not expect. Socially, if word gets out, it can lead to isolation as many people may not be accepting of such arrangements. Also, legally in some places, group sexual activities might be against the law. And from a relationship - building perspective, it can be a distraction from the core of your marriage, which should be based on mutual love, respect and commitment between just the two of you.

It could go many ways. Maybe he faces resistance from his spouse or has trouble dividing assets. Or perhaps he realizes it's not what he truly wants in the end.

Maybe he initially gets defensive. He could start blaming her for the problems in the relationship instead of trying to understand her perspective. This would only make the situation worse.

If he's comfortable with it, he can just go for it. Maybe start small, like trying on a piece of clothing. But if he's not, he should communicate his feelings clearly to his wife. He can say something like 'I love you, but this isn't something I'm interested in right now'.

First, have an open conversation with her. Ask her why she wants to do it. If it's just for fun and she doesn't realize how it might seem, gently explain your concerns. If she still insists, you might need to set stricter boundaries and remind her of the importance of your relationship and loyalty. You could also talk to your friend privately and let him know that this is not acceptable behavior in your marriage.

You should sit down with your wife and discuss the boundaries and expectations. Let her know that a bachelor party is often a male - bonding experience and there may be activities that are not suitable for her. At the same time, find out if she has a specific reason for wanting to go. If it's to support the groom in a different way, perhaps there are other ways to do that. You could also suggest alternative events that she can be part of instead of the bachelor party itself. This way, you can respect both her wishes and the traditions associated with the bachelor party.

One benefit is that it deepens your understanding of each other. You get to know more about her past, her thoughts, and feelings through the stories she shares.

If your wife wants a threesome, the first step is to have an open and honest conversation with her. You need to express your own feelings clearly. If you're not comfortable with it, simply say so. For example, 'Honey, I understand your idea, but this goes against my values and makes me uncomfortable.'

First, try to create a comfortable and private space for her. Then, communicate openly to understand her feelings and any concerns she might have. Remember, it's a personal matter and respecting her boundaries is key.