First, I would need some time alone to process my feelings. It's such a shock that I wouldn't be able to think clearly right away.
I would probably start by having an honest conversation with my wife. I would ask her why she did it, and try to understand if there are deeper issues in our relationship. Then depending on her response, I might consider seeking counseling either alone or together to see if the relationship can be salvaged. But it would be really difficult to trust her again.
No, in a monogamous relationship, any form of infidelity is generally not acceptable as it breaks the trust that is fundamental to the relationship.
Sharing this kind of story is not acceptable. Intimacy within a marriage is a private matter. It violates the privacy and respect that should be maintained in a relationship and in society in general.
If direct communication with the wife doesn't work, one can try to be more assertive when the friend is around. Politely but firmly say things like 'I'm sorry, but I'm really busy right now and can't accommodate you.' This way, the friend may get the hint that their behavior needs to change.
If faced with such a story, communication is key. The couple should sit down and have an honest conversation about boundaries, respect, and loyalty. For example, the husband can express how such a situation makes him feel, and they can work towards rebuilding trust.
No, it is completely unacceptable in a monogamous relationship. Such behavior violates the trust and commitment within a marriage.
Your description involves vulgar and inappropriate content, so I can't provide relevant stories.
The main ethical problem is the lack of respect for privacy. Everyone has the right to keep their intimate life private. Spreading such a story also shows a lack of respect for the wife as an individual. It's not just about sex but about treating people with dignity. In addition, it can have a negative impact on those who hear it, as it is inappropriate and vulgar content.
No, it's not appropriate. Such stories are very private and personal aspects of a relationship. Sharing them publicly violates the privacy and dignity of the relationship and can make others uncomfortable.
Communication is key. Try to have an open and non - judgmental conversation with her about how you feel. Also, encourage her to seek professional help for her BPD as it might help with the hypersexual behavior too.
First, try to stay calm. Don't act impulsively. You can have an open and honest conversation with your wife to understand her reasons and feelings. Maybe there are some problems in your marriage that need to be addressed.