Growing up

As a young girl growing up, I was filled with fantasies of how the future will be like. How I will get a good job after graduating from the University, how I will eventually marry a rich man who will love and cherish me more than his own life so I was excited and anxious about the future. I also daydream of my children, how they will look like and how I'm going to give my parents the best life can offer because they are simply the best parents in the world but however, reality is quite different from our imaginations and fantasies. while in school, I made sure to abide by every rules set by the school to avoid any form of punishment, I kept to myself most times to avoid trouble and was the perfect definition of a good girl. As the Years passed by, I graduated from the university as an average student and that was when reality started.

Joy have you applied in any of these schools around? perhaps you might be lucky and call upon for an interview. yes mummy I have applied already. how about the job vacancies advert I see on TV have you been applying because if u have been applying then you should have gotten a job by now. I have been applying mum it's ok I believe you will get a job at the appointed time just keep praying.

Now in this part of the world where I live, getting a decent job is not always easy only the few privileged citizens and people of high social connections are able to buy such decent jobs for their children and we the middle and lower class are left to hustle on our own and so women often get married immediately after graduating from the university to start raising their own family rather than wait for jobs that will sometimes don't come until old age.

The Society start asking a lady who is above 20 years to get married and start putting pressure on a lady to get married and produce offspring.

Having a boyfriend who loves me so much I believe and I loved him back, I thought it's going to be easy to get married until when we realized he was not boyant enough to start a family of his own. now with the pressure from family and society, I was ready to marry any available man and settle down with him however, I got a man who met 20% of my requirements in marriage and I accepted and went ahead because we were often told that no man is 100% good so I got married