UNMARRIED

All is well

This episode is just a chapter, not an ending

This is not a bad thing

What might be worse has already made it through

Hira remembered her domestic life, which ended more than a year ago.

She couldn't even pay for a lawyer, couldn't even pay the divorce fees in the religious court, but she managed every effort because the decision was unanimous. It felt like she wanted to go to the toilet; she couldn't keep it in any longer anymore.

It was probably the most amicable divorce ever. Hira and Bintang attend a trial at the religious court twice a month. For almost three months, coming and going, having lunch together in the canteen, waiting for the call for a test. Until the decision ended, there was no dispute in the courtroom.

After the first divorce lawsuit a year earlier, she withdrew the case, and it turned out that life had not improved, the cycle of problems had not changed, the issues were extended without any progress, and it felt like there was no longer any reason to hold on.

The length of the age of marriage is not something special to be proud of when all the aspects of life are messy, full of suffering, and painful. That's not the purpose of marriage. Beat without limits. Understand and understand through the breath. And it feels like all the energy has been drained.

So far, Hira thinks that's how married life should be. Like how her mother always served her father.

From the first, Hira realized everything. Even if all this time still survives only because of pity. Not because you can't, just empathy. Pity. Pity. Hira is willing to sacrifice. Sacrifice her happiness. At this point, Hira refuses to be like her mother, whose happiness she derives from sacrifice. Hira felt that she had sacrificed enough. Enough is enough.

The saying goes, Be careful with snakes. Even though they have changed their skin many times, he's still a snake.

As good as women. As bright as a woman. As beautiful as a girl. There is a time in married life will one experiences a test. There is a third, fourth, and so on who participate in domestic life. Just remember that if it happens one day, it's time for evaluation and reflection on the relationship that has gone so far.

No, it's no longer about being less good, less intelligent, or less beautiful. No need to find fault within yourself. It's time to love yourself more. Wounds are wounds. Stop blaming circumstances. When something excruciating happens, it's a good time to resign. Be grateful. The Universe opened the door. The solution to the lingering pain and injustice.

Come out even if it feels unfair and painful at times. Go out! Because it is the gate to finding true love. True love, love that grows, nourishes, tenderness that creates peace.

Hira's final sadness is that when the judge still gave 14 days to file an appeal, Bintang did not fight for it—allowing the divorce decision to be legal.

They left the house and lived apart. Their parents and siblings don't know; they don't want to be a burden because they are still friends from a human perspective. Only legally, they no longer have a bond.

After almost a year of divorce, Bintang still likes to call her for the same reasons and money problems. But now, Hira is more willing to give sincerely helping even though Bintang never once said thank you. Maybe there is someone who is only good when becoming a friend. And Bintang may be one of them.

Now her life is lighter and less burdensome because she does not participate and is immersed in the vortex of Bintang's problems. On the other hand, Bintang can easily ask for help if Hira needs it. Their lives are no longer a battlefield but more of mutual support. After they divorced, there were no rights and obligations. The fight was over.

For Hira, separating from Bintang is a proud achievement. Because she passes her weakest point, fights her pity. There was no guarantee that he would be happy after this, but at least she felt something different.

She was able to break the cycle of suffering.

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