What makes Jian Kang Lu afraid to become a parent in the first place was he knew he was never a patient one, unlike his little husband. He also felt he can't be a teacher to guide their children. Even though his residents always said he could teach well, deep inside his heart he always felt he lacked the talent of being a good teacher.
Loving your children is different from being a good parent to them. To raise children, love itself was never enough.
For example, when his children turn three years old. A lot of children at that age are sent to preschool and continue to kindergarten when they turn four. Jian Kang Lu and Bai Yutang agreed to send their children to preschool at the end of winter, when they are almost 3,5 year old.
There's a lot of good preschools nowadays. Jian Kang Lu only chose a good one near their residential complex even though Sun Hongjia told him that he suggested the preschool his son once attended.