Accepting Meaningful Advice

"What else can we do to improve, Life Coach?" Somebody asked.

"Having a sense of humour could be another way to impress women. But don't be a clown who is constantly cracking jokes. You can have a few laughs here and there. That much is permissible. Don't take everything too seriously. As humans should appreciate and enjoy the little things in life, moreover, be able to share that with others. You will portray that you are a fun and light-hearted person to be around.

A sense of authenticity and honesty about your intentions and feelings is good to have, instead of playing games or trying to manipulate the ladies.

This tactic is very effective in getting many women to hook up with you. One of the main reasons why being manipulative tends to get the chicks is because most of them prefer the comforting lies that come with it.

You have to understand gentlemen, women are attention-driven bodies with a complex twist for sparsity. You can translate this as they desired attention but not too much of it where you come off as being desperate.

This is why I tell young men all the time to not put these women on a pedestal. Treat them no differently than you would your sister or your cousin. If you approach with this mindset then you will see just how easy it is to talk to women.

Back to what I was saying earlier, by being open and honest, you will convey that you are a trustworthy and reliable person. You will be more likely to develop deeper and more meaningful connections with the girl that you truly like."

As I listened to the Life Coach speaking, someone in the chat said his experience with women is one of one-sided affection. He usually treats his women like garbage and somehow they always drop their panties for him. He's saying he is confused. If women want to be respected by men, why do they keep shagging the guys who are disrespectful or toxic as they would say?

"So we have here a typical scenario of Chad and Tyrone. Men who get away and benefit by downgrading women. There is something you all need to understand. The type of women these men attract is usually 304s. Women who are emotionally insecure and flamboyant with their sexuality.

However, this same group of women, later down in their life, say when they reach their mid-thirties or early forties, will no longer find Chad and Tyrone the ideal mate. Because by then, they will come to realize that they can't tame these men. These men are natural predators who mainly ejaculate then evacuate.

Now I am not saying that you should accept these women's baggage that has accumulated over the years, nor am I saying that you should become Chad and Tyrone if you want to attract women. I'm simply giving you an insight into the current scenarios here."

Although most women appear to be infatuated with toxic men, still be polite and respect women's boundaries and personal space. Respect their right to say no and do not pressure them to do things they are not comfortable with. By doing this, you show that you are a considerate person who will be more likely to attract the type of woman that appreciates and reciprocates your generosity and true intentions."

Wow, this guy knows a lot about women. As I sat there listening, my mind was being expanded with knowledge. I had no idea that girls were this sort of creature. My parents didn't educate me in this department. Which is why I considered the Life Coach's words to be a godsend.

"Okay moving on to the next person's question. Carl101 is asking if looks are a necessary factor in attracting women. It definitely is Carl. If you're looking to become more popular with the ladies then you need to be well-groomed and well-dressed.

I'm not saying you have to be flashy or over the top, but taking care of your appearance and presenting yourself in a clean and put-together way would give you a boost in the dating market. This can involve things like showering regularly, wearing clean clothes and grooming yourself in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. By taking care of your appearance, you tell others that you value yourself; that you are confident in who you are and this does get more women to flock to you.

Another way to go about this is to become more adventurous. Don't be too content in your comfort zone. It can be as simple as trying new foods or activities or as big as taking a trip or trying a new hobby. By practising these traits, you place the impression on others that you are a curious and open-minded person.

Here is another vital tip for the young men who are watching the Live right now and for those of you here in the audience. Be more manly; embrace your masculinity. This is how biology designed you to be.

Most women won't sexually be into you if they see that you are acting feminine. That is their role, not yours. I know most of you might want to argue with this statement, but it has been proven time and time again that most women get wet and excited for manly men. Let me see if I can find any women in the audience."

Life Coach searched the audience like a hawk until he located a few women sitting in groups in a row just a few paces behind me.

"The beautiful young ladies over there. I have a question for you. Show of hands if you prefer a feminine guy over a masculine one. "

I turned my head at the ladies to see how they would respond. Just as the Life Coach said, neither of them raised their hands.

"This proves my point men. It's important to be masculine and assertive if you want to get with those beautiful ladies down there, but do not be aggressive. It is good to stand up for yourself and express your opinions and feelings, but it's also good to do so in a respectful and considerate way.

No one wants to be around someone who is constantly pushing their own agenda or trying to dominate others. So, it's great to strike a balance and be confident and assertive, but also respectful and considerate of others."

These were great pieces of advice he was giving. I just had to figure out how I was going to apply them in my everyday life. My mind was committing every word he said to memory.

"Being a good conversationalist would strike a bonus in allowing you to get with as many women as you want. It is profitable to engage in interesting and meaningful conversations, rather than just talking about yourself or making small talk.

Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and effectively and listen to and understand others. As a man, you should be able to resolve conflicts or misunderstandings constructively and respectfully.

Patient and understanding are key to a healthy relationship. Don't get too frustrated or annoyed when things don't go your way. Don't get too down on yourself when you make mistakes or face challenges. These traits show that you are a compassionate and empathetic person, not just some hard-ass macho machine.

One of the things I find crippling this younger generation is that most of you can't take proper criticism. And to become more out there, you need to be open to feedback and criticism and be willing to change and improve upon areas of your life that may not be working for you.

Say for instance that you are overweight and can barely carry yourself. You already know what to do to get healthy. You just need to adapt the mentality to change and stop complaining and whimpering whenever somebody shames you.

We live in a world of diverse opinions, no matter how many tears you cry over your image, people will always have something bad to say. However, they would say less negative and more positive things about you, if you get your fat ass in shape."

Life Coach didn't pull any punches on that one. I noticed a lot of supportive as well as disgruntled comments as I scrolled through the chat. One person was saying that it is ok to be fat, they should embrace who they are and another person was saying that he will never put aside his burger just to satisfy the taste of what most girls find attractive in a man. I understood some of their viewpoints about self-positivity but I didn't agree with all of them.

I was in a situation where I wasn't the most attractive, outspoken person, nor in shape physically and I saw at my school how most students react to me. Even some of the teachers showcased their disgust at times without knowing it. So I was willing to make the necessary changes after I finished listening to what the Life Coach had to say.

"To strive in a social environment with many ladies present is to not be too desperate and focus solely on getting laid. Have something going on for yourself; be passionate and enthusiastic about something. Whether it's a hobby, a sport, a cause, or something else. By being passionate and enthusiastic about something, you come off as a driven and purposeful person. So, find something you are passionate about young men and embrace it wholeheartedly."

"Life Coach, you're amazing! I appreciate all that you've thought me so far and I'm sticking around to hear more." I secretly typed this into the chat.

Shortly, I heard the Life Coach responding, "I'm glad to have been able to help someone out there. Remember, becoming more favourable with the ladies is about being the best version of yourself and treating them with respect and kindness. It's also about being open to learning and growth and being confident and assertive without being arrogant or aggressive, as I've mentioned earlier. If you focus on these things and continue to work on personal growth, you will be more likely to attract positive attention and build meaningful connections with meaningful women."

I replied in chat, thanking the Life Coach for his advice again. Afterwards, I notice another user asking what Life Coach thinks on the topic of gender roles and expectations, sexual harassment in general, gender-based violence, gender inequality and reproductive rights. I wasn't sure how these fit into the topic of what the seminar was about, but the Life Coach still went ahead and answer.