Dating

It is'nt easy to choose the one we love but is powerful if we are able to have that special someone to stay in our live forever. There are no strict rules on dating but we need to be aware that the people we date isn't always what we expect them to be in real life. In dates, we all want to impress our crush or special person, so we're going togo ahead and be in our best behavior. But based on my experience, I remember my first ever date with a dentist. He was nice and a gentleman. We went to a taco shop and the restaurant has good food. I ordered a taco with lots of onions and spices, then said to my date that he's not able to kiss me or try anything silly since I ate this smelly taco. Haha, I don't know what came over me and uttered that phrase. I think he got turned off, but sure enough, on my dental visits, thinking that we are still good, I found out he has a girlfriend. No wonder I felt that way, meaning I wasn't that serious with him is because he isn't that free to date since he already had a girl after all. Okay, so, a lot of times, we have that intuition, that tiny voice inside that either stops or warns us about something or a person. To beware or be aware that he or she isn't serious or has bad intentions on us. Sometimes these people also just wanted to get a score on us or are just challenged to pursue us because of a bet or we're like a trophy for them when they've won us.

Here are some tips on dating your love, crush or special someone.

First, smile and be nice to the person. We don't need to pretend but just act natural and confident. If we are nervous, the same goes with our date I'm sure. Because we wanted to impress and have that lasting impression with the one we are with. So, the date will turn out great and we will have another invitation or invite that special one again next time.

Second, the connection. We will instantly know if our date feels the same way as we do. Happy, comfortable, safe and excited. We tend to be shy at first because we are just trying to get to know the person, if we haven't talked to them online or on message apps. If we knew them beforehand then we don't have any problems on chatting about all sort of stuff, from personals, pets, every day acts, work, to private issues, politics, religion, travels or anything under the sun. It is a spontaneous feeling and intimacy, as if our date and us were like long lost friends or companions eversince. And we couldn't take our mind, heart, our selves off them from the moment we laid our eyes on them and the very first time they stepped into the place we arranged that unforgetable date.

Third, our character and appearance. In reality, many would prefer we focud on the physical or our appearance most especially of our date. Meaning, we want ourselves to be beautful, handsome and presentable with to our special someone and our date to look fabulous as well. Yet, whatever one looks like or what one wears it always depend on his/her good attitude and pleasant vibes that could make or break a connection, much more, a mood or ambiance, however amazing the setting or the moment. We always need to make sure that our date feels comfortable and not awkward, thus, same goes with us too with him/her. We can start with the smile, welcoming attitude and a mood where we aren't trying so hard to please them. I'm sure our date too, wouldn't want to force us to like them instantly, but being true to one's self is always perfect. But if we are cold or an introvert then we must learn how to open up a little, but in a way where we aren't forcing that smile, or that being optimistic about things if we're not born to have that million dollar smile. Haha!, we all know that faking it isn't really a good idea in the dating category. We can fake a smile or a laugh but we could never lie about our true feelings or our boredom with our eyes, actions or body movements. It will always show when we tend to smoothen things up and will just end up badly for us. So, build that connection with a genuine smile. Even if we feel like our date isn't what we expect, we need to remember that we shouldn't judge a book by its cover, and see past through the physical or first impression. Because impressions don't last and liking someone is getting to know them more by talking and being intimate with them. It is seldom that we get to know someone by merely looking at them and really falling in love at first sight. I couldn't speak for everyone but love at first sight I think, only exist in the movies. But, who knows, we can get lucky and get to fall in love with our date with eye contact, smile, hug, hand shake or even on text messages. Who knows!

Sometimes opposites attract or not. Some other times we feel that we are intimate with our date that we automatically give in or give ourselves to them. Well, that happens too. But we can slow things down and think about the consequences of our actions. A lot of times, we get carried away or just decide things on the spur of the moment because we are already in that state and we thought we couldn't say no or stop sex. We could if we want or decide it. We can only control ourselves and not our date. So, let's be wise and decide to give ouselves to the One who loves us and who we love. There is no hurry. Whether you're young or elderly. Love and falling in love knows no age, gender, religion, class or belief. We can love anytime, anywhere and be with whom we choose or want and who choose or want us just the same. Good luck!