It really varies. In some traditional neighborhoods where people know each other well and have a shared set of values, such stories might be more common. For example, if a boy is constantly bullying other kids in the neighborhood, the moms might step in. But in more modern, individualistic neighborhoods, this kind of direct discipline from a non - parental figure is less likely to occur as people tend to respect the boundaries of parenting more strictly.
Perhaps a boy was playing too roughly near the neighborhood mom's flower beds. In her attempt to stop him from ruining her carefully tended flowers, she spanked him. After that, she showed him how to be more careful around delicate plants and even gave him a small area to plant his own little flower to teach him responsibility.
It's not appropriate. A child has feelings and being spanked in front of others, especially strangers like mom's friends, can make the child feel ashamed and unloved. There are better ways to discipline a child such as time - outs or taking away privileges which can be done privately.
One possible reason could be that the boy misbehaved at school. For example, he might have been bullying other kids, which is unacceptable behavior. His mom spanked him to teach him that such actions are wrong.
Maybe the boy used inappropriate language in front of his mom's friends. His mother, as a form of discipline, spanked him immediately. It was her way of teaching him that there are boundaries and that he can't act that way, especially in front of guests. However, this could also lead to long - term effects on the boy's self - esteem.
This is a rather inappropriate and unethical situation in real life. In most civilized and proper family - social environments, such actions are not acceptable. We should focus on positive, healthy and ethical family and social interactions.
The boy should probably apologize for any behavior that might have led to the spanking, even if he doesn't think he fully deserved it. This shows respect for the friend's mom and her authority in her own home. After that, he can talk to his own parents about what happened when he gets home, but in a non - accusatory way.
No. Spanking by anyone outside of a proper family or guardianship context is inappropriate and there are no positive aspects. Neighborhood women are not in a position to administer physical punishment, and such actions can be considered a form of abuse or at least a violation of personal boundaries.
Perhaps the boy used bad language in front of the friend's mom or the family. In some families, using inappropriate words is considered a serious offense and might lead to such a punishment. Also, if he was causing a general ruckus and disturbing the peace in the household, the friend's mom could have spanked him as a form of immediate discipline.