One-on-One Marriage Recovery

Answer 1

Here are some ways to salvage a one-on-one marriage:

** 1. Judging the possibility of marriage redemption **
1. ** Analyzing the opponent's situation **
- She wanted to know if the man had a second wife. If there was a second family and the feelings were transferred, it would be more difficult to recover. If there was no one to return to after separating from the woman outside, it was possible to return to the family. This situation was relatively easy to recover. If the man had no one outside but insisted on getting a divorce, the problem might be more serious and the cost of recovery would be greater, but it was also worth a try.
- Consider the other party's emotional foundation. If the two parties were in love and had a good emotional foundation, it was recommended to redeem them. If it was just to make do or a one-way relationship, it would be more difficult to redeem them.
- It was clear whether the man's reason for divorce was personal, relationship, or external. External problems (such as the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, etc.) and personal problems (such as the mid-life crisis, etc.) were relatively low in cost, and it was recommended to save them. As for relationship problems (such as long-term quarrels and deep grudges), they might need the help of a professional relationship counselor.
- She observed whether the man had feelings for the child. A man with feelings was easier to redeem.
- Pay attention to whether the man has self-contradictory behavior after betrayal or whether his words and actions are extreme during divorce. Self-contradictory words and deeds indicated that there was emotional nostalgia in the heart, and extreme words and deeds also indicated that there was a great conflict in the heart. These two situations were relatively easy to salvage; the type of very rational divorce was more difficult to salvage.
- Looking back at the man's satisfaction with the marriage before the betrayal, if it was above 60 points, it meant that the relationship itself had resources and there was a chance to redeem it. If the satisfaction was low, a professional plan might be needed.
- He examined his degree of reluctance to part with his relationship. If it reached 30 points or more, it was best to try to salvage it. If two of the above judgments are recommended to be salvaged, it is best to try to salvage it.
2. ** Self-reflection **
- Think about the reasons for the breakup of the relationship, such as whether there are problems such as dissonance, different values, poor communication, or the intervention of a third party.

** 2. The specific strategy to salvage the situation **
1. ** Correct attitude **
- When a partner filed for divorce and had made up his mind to leave, he should not adopt a way to accommodate, please, or resist. Instead, she expressed her understanding of his intention to leave, saying that she just felt that it was sudden and hoped that they could calm down for a period of time. She also asked the other party to give her some time to seriously consider it. This way, she could avoid conflict and buy time to plan.
2. ** Establishing effective communication **
- In a marriage, when there was a conflict, one could not avoid the problem, turn a blind eye to it, or give a cold war. They had to communicate actively, understand each other's thoughts through communication, and obtain effective information to determine a response.
3. ** Solve the conflict and admit your mistake **
- Think from the other party's point of view and understand the other party's thoughts and feelings. Don't just blame or defend. Admit your mistakes, acknowledge the other party's strengths, avoid saying things that hurt the other party, and don't give up the other party's love because of a moment of grievance.
4. ** Increase self-worth **
- Love was based on attraction, and attraction was based on value. He had to form a second attraction through internal and external improvement. When one's marital value was higher than the benefits of divorce, it was possible to attract the other party back and re-establish an intimate relationship.
5. ** To improve the way we get along **
- [Add Romance: Both husband and wife should keep their original intentions and treat each other well.] Pay attention to the sense of ceremony, remember both parties 'birthdays, acquaintances, and wedding anniversaries, and prepare flowers, gifts, candlelight dinners, etc. on these days. Usually, take time to accompany the other party to do things that they like, such as watching movies, eating, traveling, etc., to avoid problems in the marriage due to dullness.
- "Heart-to-heart problem solving": Husband and wife should accommodate and tolerate each other, and feel each other's needs with all their heart. They can't just care about winning or losing an argument and not solve the problem. They had to find common ground through communication and reach a consensus on important issues.
- ** Maintain self **: Both men and women should not lose themselves in marriage. They should dare to express themselves, fight for their own rights, and let the other party respect themselves to maintain the balance of the marriage relationship.