Marriage is always healing while being hurt

Answer 1

In a marriage, there were indeed situations where one was injured and healed at the same time.

First of all, both parties in a marriage were independent individuals with their own growth experiences, personality characteristics, and behavior habits. It was inevitable that contradictions and conflicts would arise in the process of getting along, which might cause one or both parties to get hurt. For example, one party's casual words might hurt the other party's self-esteem, or cause emotional damage due to differences in family responsibilities.

Secondly, there were healing factors in marriage. The emotional foundation between husband and wife was an important source of healing, like Huo Siyan and Du Jiang. Du Jiang saw Huo Siyan's strong appearance and sensitive and soft heart and gave love and tolerance. Huo Siyan also paid back Du Jiang's efforts. This kind of mutual understanding, acceptance, and return was a kind of healing.

Moreover, when there were problems in the marriage, both parties could use some positive methods to heal it. For example, by confirming the damage (reflecting on the damage you have done to your partner and listing the damage your partner has done to you, looking for similarities to make the other party empathize), apologizing to each other (first sincerely apologize for your own mistakes and then encourage the other party to apologize), and forgiving your partner (sometimes forgiving yourself) to heal the "small wounds" in marriage.

However, not all marriages were like this. Some marriages might be harmonious and avoid a lot of harm, while some marriages might not be healed after experiencing harm and break down.