Share your own experiences first. This shows that you are open and willing to exchange. It can also help her feel less self - conscious about sharing her own stories.
Respect her boundaries. If she seems hesitant, don't push. Just let her know that the option to share is always there. For instance, if she changes the subject when you bring it up, don't force it but say something like 'Okay, no problem. Whenever you're ready.'
Be open and share your own first - time stories too. It creates a sense of equality. If you share your first time trying a new sport and how clumsy you were, she might feel more at ease to share her own experiences. Also, don't judge. If her story is about something that didn't go so well, like her first job interview that was a disaster, don't criticize but instead offer support and say something like 'It's okay, everyone has those moments.'
Ensure the bedroom is at a comfortable temperature. Not too cold or too hot, so she won't feel chilly or sweaty during the night.
First, communicate openly. Let her know your feelings and desires without any pressure. Respect her initial reaction, whether it's positive or negative.
Feeling safe is key. This could be in a relationship where they trust the other person completely. Also, if they can see that sharing might help others, like in an educational or support group setting where everyone is there to learn and grow from each other's experiences, it can make them more comfortable.
Just be patient and non - threatening. Smile often and give her space. Don't force conversations. Let her come to you at her own pace. Maybe start with simple small talk about the weather or how her day was at school.
Trust is key. A wife needs to trust her partner completely. Communication is also very important. She should be able to talk about her likes and dislikes freely. And creating a safe and comfortable environment, like a cozy bedroom, can help.
She can start by having a long and deep conversation with him about his feelings and expectations. Also, creating a cozy and relaxing atmosphere in the bedroom can help. For example, using soft lighting and nice music.
Accompany her and introduce her to some friendly members.
Give him space. Don't be overly pushy in trying to interact. Sometimes, people need time to warm up. Just be consistently friendly from a distance at first.