What was the definition of a good wife?

My mother is a person with a wooden mouth and a soft heart. When I have a boyfriend, I will be scolded for giving sex. When I find a job, I will say that you will not be able to work for a day! When I gave him money, he would also say that this bit of money was useless. My mother-in-law was very good and would even help me with my confinement. My mother said that I had a bad life. When I met such a mother-in-law, he would say this sentence every two or three days. Every time he went back to his mother's house, he would listen and say that I was not in front of my mother-in-law. I knew that he was doing it for my good and hoped that I would be better. Therefore, I wanted to work hard to be a good daughter-in-law and make him feel at ease. However, I gradually felt that it was a thankless task. Even a good mother-in-law would have different opinions sometimes. My mother and my mother-in-law's views were almost completely opposite. It was rare for them to have the same ideas. From the time they got married and prepared for the wedding, they couldn't come to an agreement no matter what. The customs of the two sides were very different. In the end, they almost quarreled. I was scolded by both sides. Now, it was the same situation with my son. At my in-law's house, I was scolded that my son wanted to sleep, but I didn't let him sleep.(My son needs to be coaxed when he wants to sleep, but I want to train him not to be coaxed to sleep). When I went back to my mother's home, I was scolded for hugging him when he cried. When I went back to my in-laws 'home, I was scolded for how to turn on the electric fan (not to mention the air-conditioner). When I went back to my mother's home, I was scolded for having heat rash. I would scold them because my mother-in-law and mother were both loud. Sometimes, they even shouted. Every time I felt embarrassed, I would feel guilty. Like now, I also feel guilty because they didn't abuse me. How can I be so calculative? I feel that I can't be a good daughter-in-law and daughter. It's so difficult and tiring to be stuck on both sides. My in-laws won't allow me to work and say what kind of job I can find. My parents will say that I don't know what I'm doing at home all day. I've never said no to them. I can only escape and escape from my thoughts. My husband can't communicate with them. He only says don't care what they say. I really don't know what to do. I really can't be a good daughter-in-law. So tired.

Answer 1

The definition of a good wife may vary in different novels, but generally speaking, a good wife should have the following characteristics:

Virtuous and virtuous: A good daughter-in-law should be able to respect her husband, care for the family, and diligently perform her duties such as cooking, washing, cleaning, etc.

2. Loyalty: A good daughter-in-law should be loyal to her husband and her family, not betray her husband and her family, and be honest and upright.

Gentle and considerate: A good wife should be able to treat her husband and family gently and considerately, understand their needs and feelings, and help them solve their problems.

4. Taste: A good daughter-in-law should have a certain sense of aesthetics and taste, know how to dress herself up, and at the same time be able to appreciate her husband's interests and hobbies and share happiness with them.

5. Kindness and tolerance: A good daughter-in-law should be able to treat others with kindness and tolerance, respect others, and not hurt others.

A good daughter-in-law should be a woman who could shoulder the responsibility of the family, respect her husband and family, and take care of them.