Love begins with self-deception and ends with deceiving others. This was the so-called romance. British writer and artist: Oscar Wilde
Wilde's words expressed the true meaning of love, that is, love begins with self-deception and ultimately deceives others. This deception could be achieved through words, actions, or thoughts. Wilde believed that romance was often accompanied by self-deception because the essence of romance was to pursue the beauty and mystery of emotion, which was often built on the fantasy and beautification of oneself. Therefore, in romantic relationships, people often deceive themselves into thinking that the other party likes them or is pursuing this beautiful relationship like them. However, this kind of self-deception will often gradually be exposed in the later stages of the relationship because the other party may not feel the same way as you or you may find yourself deceived over time. At this time, people may feel disappointed, angry, sad, or desperate and end the relationship. Therefore, Wilde's words remind us to be sincere and transparent in the process of pursuing love. Don't over-embellish the other party and don't over-embellish yourself. Only in this way could they build a healthier, more lasting, and more genuine relationship.