The book Rebirth: Revenge by Fire fits the information you provided. The heroine of the story had experienced the misfortune of her family since she was young. Her loved ones were killed, and she always wanted to avenge herself and her family. But when she finally reached the critical moment of revenge, she gave up. The entire novel has a strong female power and revenge plot. You might like the plot development. I hope you like my recommendation. Muah ~