She always avoided the topic of love, and I was conflicted…Help!

It's like this. She was my high school classmate. We were good friends, but I liked her. I once sent her a message to confess my feelings when I was in my second year of high school. This was the first time I really liked a girl, and it was also the first time I confessed to a girl. However, she rejected me. She replied,"I'd better not. Otherwise, we can't even be good friends." I didn't continue. From then on, we were good friends, but I always loved her. I never confessed to anyone again. Now, my first love is still in my hands. It's been nearly three years. I'm now a sophomore, and we've always been friends. She repeated a year, and now she's a freshman. After entering university, she has more time, so every night, we would call and chat for a long time. We talked about everything. I was very happy, and she kept smiling…However, whenever I mentioned her or my views on love and whether she had a partner, she would always avoid it…I want to confess to her again, but I really don't know what I should do now... Oh, I forgot to tell you. She's a very quiet and introverted girl. Just like me, she's never been in love. In high school, she always worked hard to study. She was very cheerful with her friends, but she was very quiet with strangers. I really couldn't figure it out. Yesterday, on her birthday, I gave her a box of heart-shaped chocolates. I was a little regretful at first, afraid that she would overthink, but she was very happy. To be honest, I really didn't have any feelings for other girls…Sigh...

Answer 1

If you encounter similar problems, you can consider the following solutions:

Try to understand her thoughts and feelings. Perhaps she had her own reasons and considerations for not wanting to talk about love. You can try to ask her why you understand her thoughts and feelings and then try to understand her point of view.

2. Communicate and seek compromise. If you understand her thoughts, you can try to communicate with her and ask if she is willing to talk about love and seek compromise. Perhaps he could find a time and place to talk about this topic.

3. Respect her decision. If she didn't want to talk about love, he had to respect her decision. Perhaps he could ask her if she had any other topics to discuss so that he could keep the conversation pleasant and relaxed.

No matter which plan he chose, he needed to maintain respect and patience. If you feel that she doesn't want to talk about love and is frustrated, try to talk to her about your feelings and let her know that you care about her opinions and feelings.