The scientific principle of love heartache

2026-03-06 21:51

From a scientific point of view, there were several main reasons for heartache in love. First, psychological level 1. ** Ideals, self-projection and gap ** - When people were in love, they often saw each other as their "ideal self." When the gap between a person's " real self " and " ideal self " was greater, it was easier to develop infatuated love. If there was a problem in the relationship, such as being rejected or finding out that the other party was not what one expected, this huge gap between ideal and reality would lead to psychological pain, because it meant that the ideal image one pursued could not be achieved in reality. 2. ** Emotional dependence and loss ** - In the process of love, both parties gradually established an emotional dependence relationship. When this relationship was threatened or broken, there would be a sense of loss. It was like being used to some kind of emotional support or companionship. Once it was lost, the brain would regard it as the loss of an important resource, which would trigger a negative emotional reaction, which would be expressed as heartache. 3. ** The mutual influence of emotions ** - In the stage of passionate love, the emotions of both parties were more interconnected. When the other party's behavior or attitude changes and is no longer as self-centered as in the early stages of love, there will be an emotional gap. For example, if the other party turned from being concerned to being indifferent, this change would cause one's emotions to turn from positive to negative, feeling neglected and unloved, which would lead to heartache. Second, the physiological level 1. ** Hormonal changes ** - In love, the human body secretes a variety of hormones, such as Dopamine and Oxotocinin. Dopamine could bring pleasure, and it was the source of excitement and passion in love. When a relationship is in crisis, such as a breakup, the secretion of Dopamine may decrease sharply. This sudden change in hormone levels will affect the brain's reward system, causing discomfort similar to withdrawal reactions, resulting in heartache. It is related to intimate relationships and emotional bonds. When a relationship breaks down, the change in the level of the hormone will also have a negative impact on the mood. 2. ** Brain activity area ** - Some areas of the brain are closely related to emotional experience, such as the almond. When faced with stress and sadness in love, the almond nucleus would be activated, triggering the body's stress response, including physiological reactions such as accelerated heartbeat and rapid breathing. These reactions were accompanied by psychological heartache. At the same time, the brain's prefrontal lobe and other regions were also involved in the regulation of emotions. When the negative events in a relationship exceeded the regulation ability of the prefrontal lobe, one would feel an uncontrollable heartache.