1 The Man

Maine is a control freak. He likes to plan several moves ahead, as if playing chess, trying to prepare for all possible outcome. It is a proven method to avoid inconvenient situations. He does not make promises. He just shows up when he can. He is averse to investment schemes as he see it as no different from betting on the result of a basketball game.

He begs off from exchange gift commitments for the runup to Christmas which seems to be a fad here. He does not like lining up at the shopping counter to purchase a gift after contemplating on what would fit the gift theme for the

day. He hates not getting a gift after the effort exerted in getting one in for the gift pool.

Similarly, he does not have the patience for slow play when it comes to intimacy prospects. When he likes a girl, he gives her the " I wanna get in your pants look", and when the girl responds positively, he subtly lays out he ground rules. Totally non-exclusive, no strings-attached, focus on the present attitude. Some girls, think they can tame him later on and play along at first. Soon they learn they are bound for reeducation. They come to reevaluate what they think they know about boys, people and relationships.

He is an engaging storyteller. He likes to mix analogy and practical analysis in situations. He enjoys exploring theories. Girls initially get shocked at what seems like an assault on their entire belief system. But they get sucked in really fast. The intellectual stimulation is just the hook. What keeps them tied up is the emotional bond formed before they realize it happening. He is the friend whom they can tell almost everything. He does not judge, instead he evaluates. He does not rebuke, instead he contemplates. They soon realize that they don't have to pretend with him. He is going to like them more as they reveal more of themselves to him. With him they can break away from imposed social norms and explore who they really are. At least those who can handle it.

Some never previously entertained the concept of sharing, but they find themselves eager to time share than lose him. They were inclined to find faults with other girls and treat them as rivals, but now they learned the art of partnership. They found it liberating, uplifting and energizing. They learned to keep it within the closed group as everyone else would not understand. They now pity the other girls who punish themselves by caring about how other girls think and allow themselves to devolve into repressed bundles of stress and malignant energy.

They exude unbridled confidence that only enlightenment brings. They believe with him that this mindset and lifestyle is the answer. It has the explanation for most of their concerns about relationships and life in general. They become a community of converts blazing a new track en route to inner peace and perhaps true happiness.