1 Firstly_Being Her

There are many ways to acknowledge her. Many ways to see her but not everyone will share the same perspective. The same thought. When she's young between the ages of zero if accurately said, and twelve. She's seen as a girl. You give her pink and white, symbolizing her innocence and stereotype of femininity. As she grows, she notices a variety of colors. She learns whose touches belong, what makes her laugh, she sees no boundary nor color, she has nothing to cater to but to learn about life. The catch…through others' sight and perspective.

When she is thirteen, depending on places, to seventeen, she is seen as a teenage girl. She begins to discover everything in depth. She begins to question more. Her eyes are more open and vigilant. It's not just about learning but about acknowledging. Her emotions, growing. Her perspective, changing. Your firsts become more important. Not being the last becomes important. Trends begin to sink in the minds and beam like bright ideas. Failure becomes fear and not a lesson. Usually, it's when she begins to notice…' her flaws'.

Why does it hurt?

Why can't I look like her?

Why is my skin color darker or even lighter?

Why won't he notice me?

Why am I struggling?

Why can't I be as smart?

Why won't they notice me?

Why can't they get me?

Why am I so fat?

Why am I so thin?

Why can't I be so confident?

Why can't I be as popular?

When you turn eighteen to twenty-five. Everything acknowledged begins to change. The trends begin to change. it becomes more about the self and not the other. Wanting to be free becomes the drug. To love and feel become one's goal. To make money and travel far away from home become another. To be at peace becomes another, that should most likely be it, right? No there's more, some mixtures and others new. When you reach this age for many 'her's', you want more than to easily settle, especially when you don't have it all. At this time though, her mind and thoughts have matured quicker. Her needs and wants have developed. She's been hurt. She wants to change something about herself. She has goals she wants to meet. She understands that failure is a lesson and a mistake not to be made twice. If certain things haven't faced and she's still having a hard time or she's going through one. She asks

"Why aren't I enough?"

"Are my standards too high?"

"Why can't I get it?"

"Do I need to change?

"Did I deserve it?

"Will it ever stop hurting?

"Was I wrong?"

One I've asked myself one too often… "When will it end and get better even though I do right?" and I'm only twenty…