53 Related does not mean family/ /early Mother’s Day note

Related does not mean family.

Being Related to someone is when you both have descended from a similar ancestor.

Related is someone who you are connected to my blood.

But that doesn't mean you're connected by anything else.

Family is someone who cares about you.

Family is someone who you can relate to.

Family is something that you love and cherish.

I can say I'm related to many people but I can't count them all as family

In the house that I live in we are all related we are supposed to be family and I feel that we are but at the same time there's this overwhelming feeling of not belonging

We are related in multiple ways sister cousins great-grandparent

But they feel like mom dad sister and more annoying sisters.

Mother's Day is coming up and due to social norms i'm supposed to act like everything is fine

Why must on that day do I have to call that woman a mother and my cousins Biological mother their mother?

Why must I give fake respect to people who never wanted us in the first place

Why must I pretend that I am fine with this

Why must I pretend to care about a person who has never cared about me , wanted me, or ever thought about me as more than an afterthought or let that person think that they have an ability to gain something from my existence

Why must I sweep under the rug what has happened neglect and abandonment. Why on that day of all days to those people believe they deserve recognition.

Why do all people of the world give recognition to people who may not deserve it

They weren't there for those moments: A first step, first day of school, first tooth lost, birthdays , A first date, graduation, first day of college (if you choose to go), finding that person you want to swim last your life with, marriage, your own children even

Why when they missed so many important moments of our development to we pretending deserve that recognition

Those few moments I got to see you try to share something with you why do you say squash it like a bug and pretend it never exist

Speaking from my own experience: the first tooth I ever lost I was so excited my mom said it was a part of growing up and that I was becoming a big girl (yay) I wanted to share that moment so the day after I was supposed to have visitation with the biological jerk face that I'm supposed to call a mother. I showed her how excited I was I showed her the tooth it was in a plastic bag to keep it safe (5 year old logic) when we were about to leave she straddled me to the floor tickled me unbutton my pants pocket and without my knowledge at the time took the tooth in the plastic bag. I was ready to go to bed later at night looking for that stupid tooth in that plastic bag to put under my pillow for the tooth fairy I was devastated. I looked everywhere but it was never seen again. I found out later from my aunt what she did with it. She sold it to her drug dealer for whatever fix she wanted.

How is that behavior worthy of recognition among the countless other vile things she has done.

Mom, my beautiful mom the most self sacrificing woman you would ever meet if it wasn't for her there's a good chance me and my sisters will not be alive. She didn't have to take us what she did out of the goodness of her heart.

This upcoming December she will be 79 years old( my dad will be 80 in August)

She raised her own two children, two of her grandchildren, and now with me included four of her great grandchildren.

She has somehow helped me make it to 18 and hopefully she will be there for the rest of them to make it to that age.

I don't know what I would ever do without her.

VVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV

While I'm writing this there's actually a point to my seemingly meaningless rant of my unstable emotions on the topic

((((Mother's Day is in a few days and I don't know anyone else's family situation but I want to make it a point to anyone and everyone that just because you're related to someone doesn't make them your family. Your family loves and cherishes you and wishes you the best. While hopefully many of you have happy loving families for the ones who feel that you're obligated to show recognition to those who are related to you but have done nothing for you , you don't have to. Celebrate Mother's Day with the female figure in your life who has done to the best who has been your mother to you, your mom. it doesn't matter if they are related to you or not it matters if their family))))

Happy early Mother's Day

-Anex and siblings