29 A wedding is not a Marriage (5)

"Ncoooh, thank you my friend" I appreciated blowing a kiss to her.

"See women are soft and kind hearted beings… there's no need to hurt or abuse them…" said the M.C with an expression on his face. "we men need to safeguard and protect them at all times…just look at them they hugging and comforting each other over a speech... this is so touchy… must I cry too?" he said.

The guests were clearly entertained by Musa's friend the M.C. he sure really does know how to keep people entertained not bored, he knows his game. I do believe that each and every one of us here in this universe, in this planet called earth, everyone was born with that special gift, special talent. We all have a calling, a calling on our talents. Our problem as the human race we tend to be copy cats of each other, we shouldn't try to portray other beings but be the origin of what God had mastered in us and be what God wants us to be and also use our special gifts as he has given us.

It is so heart breaking and so sad to see, people trying to be what they're not just trying to fit in. that angers me.

If one has a gift, one has to find a way and try to express that God given talent and use it not abuse it or try to be what they are not. One has to use it in such a way that they are proud of it and not trying to please other people but yourself and does certify your soul. Our talents are somehow hidden and do need a boost to showcase them, singing, writing, poetry and any form of art, it is a talent. All this gifts or talent, God had given us, it was all in his way of showing us of what he is capable of! Remember the beginning, when he created man in his image? He created us to be like him, because he is a creative God, he was exposing his talents, his an artist, he's everything, just look how the universe is and how beautiful it is? On each and every one of us human beings God has put his magnificent talents and some are spiritually hidden for you and I to find this special skills that He has given us is to seek first his kingdom and all will follow.

Most beings do complain about their gifts, wishing that they shared the same gifts with some. We might share the same gifts or have the same talents but it is highly impossible that we can have the same thoughts. Even on identical twins born on the same day don't share the same blood type, they might look alike but not exactly, even on ideas they might not sound really alike. For we were created by one true God.

Our traditional ceremonies took place at our homes, the bringing of the bride to her in laws, we were all dressed in our diverse cultures. Trevor is a Zulu he was dressed in his Zulu culture and so his wife. We weren't there to witness their traditional wedding as they were also not present on ours too, but both parties knew what was happening.

J.R is a Sotho and I'm a Swazi girl. When my family took me to my in laws, when they took me to my new family my new home, I was dressed in as a Swazi maiden and so was J.R, he was also dressed up as a Swazi warrior, after when they have welcomed us and part of the ceremonial activities have been performed we had to change to my new home, my new culture and that symbolizes that I am no longer called a Swazi but I am a Radebe.

We changed our clothes into Sotho attire. Him wrapped up by the blue blanket and his reed hat and carrying a stick. When the ceremonies have been held and I have been told how to respect my in laws and submit to each and every one of them whether young or old. I was then given their traditional attire to wear their sishweshwe to prove that I have been accepted with warm hands and I am now one of them, I am no longer considered as a Swazi girl but as a Mosotho wife or bride. My dowry was submitted earlier before the wedding. In our African culture you can't get married with your lover without the dowry being paid. If it did happen that your lover has impregnated you, he has to pay the damages and the shame he has brought on you and the family.

After everything has been settled we left for the honeymoon and head off to Nelspruit, we both couples went there to Nomndeni Celokuhle hotel a five star hotel so beautiful and celestial. I thought that marriage was an easy task an easy thing. I then remembered Mr Radebe's words 'A wedding is not marriage' I thought that troubles would perhaps start after the honeymoon but I was wrong.

We arrived at the hotel it was all love in the air. We were there to enjoy and have the best time of our lives with our lovers, Mmh I was once caught up in a conversation with girls talking about guys' tails how big and small some can be. J.R and I had never jumped or neither crossed the line, we were supposed to cross it on our honeymoon and no we didn't on our first night there. We were both scared of what we were about to do cause we weren't sure how to do it. But we allowed our emotions flow. We were ready to go out on that day. I stared at him, his lips curved up, his eyes glittered. Knowing J.R how shy he is, I thought should make a move on him, even though how bad he wanted it, he wouldn't have spoken, he would hide his emotions by "only when you are ready" his scent was so celestial, somehow he could read my body language.

He took small strides coming towards me, the moment I saw that he was behind me I turned and faced the mirror. He rubbed my shoulders, his head slowly going down to my neck; I felt the hot air of his breathing. I then realized that he wanted me, heavy breathing started for my emotions knew that now is the time of losing me to him. I slowly lifted my hand to caress his head; his right hand had already unbuttoned my blouse. He lifted me up from the chair and he examined my body. I felt wanted, I grabbed onto his shoulders pulled, myself closer to return his passionate kiss.

As our lips complemented each other, we landed on top of the bed, with me laying under J.R's body. I couldn't resist, reaching out my hands to unbutton J.R's shirt. I must admit his body is something else, with those curved muscles, I have seen him topless in the past that were just moments, me getting transfixed to his body. But now I got to see his glowing bronze skin revealed, the light that shone from the skies, made him appear as the knight in his shinning amour.