Well, often there's the element of the unexpected. For example, a mom plans a nice family dinner but the kids get sick right before. Also, kids' accidents are common. A mom might turn her back for a second and the kid has fallen and hurt themselves. And there's the always - dreaded potty - training disasters, like when a child has an accident on a brand - new couch.
In many mom horror stories, there is a lack of time or resources to deal with a situation. For instance, a mom is alone with multiple kids and one gets a fever but she can't leave the others to go to the doctor right away. Also, the chaos that kids can create in a short amount of time, like turning a clean room into a complete mess within minutes.
Excessive protection. Helicopter moms often don't let their children take any risks. This could be as simple as not allowing them to climb a tree or play a rough sport. As a result, the children grow up without learning how to handle challenges on their own and may lack self - reliance.
One common element is the sudden loss of control. Like in the stories where the kids disappear or get into dangerous situations without the mom being able to prevent it right away.
The difficulty in finding inclusive social activities is also a horror story for many moms. They want their autistic children to have a normal social life, but most community events or playgroups are not adapted for children with autism. So the mom has to constantly search for suitable places and activities, often feeling isolated in the process.
Another common element is the over - control of the mom in the child's appearance. Moms might force their kids to dress a certain way or not allow them to have a normal hairstyle, which can make the kids feel different from their peers. Also, moms may be overly involved in the child's social life, like constantly checking who they are talking to on the phone or online, which can lead to a lot of resentment from the child as they grow older.
One common element is often stress related to time management. Moms struggle to get everything done and be on time for games. Another is dealing with difficult people, like over - competitive parents or unkind coaches.
Over - controlling. Tiger moms often decide everything for their children, from study time to hobbies.
Another is the lack of trust in the child's capabilities. In the case of the mom who wouldn't let her daughter play sports, she didn't trust that the girl could handle herself on the field. This lack of trust can be really damaging to the child's self - esteem. Also, overprotective moms tend to overstep boundaries. For example, the mom who called her son's professors in college. It's not appropriate behavior and can make the child feel smothered.
Many moms face the issue of misdiagnosis. Some doctors might not be well - trained in autism diagnosis and could mislabel a child's symptoms, leading to wrong treatment plans. This can set the child back in their development. For example, my friend's child was misdiagnosed with ADHD first, and by the time they got the correct autism diagnosis, they had lost valuable time for early autism - specific interventions.
Another is the discovery of strange or disturbing behavior during the date. Like the person having extreme mood swings or being overly possessive. For example, suddenly getting angry for no reason or acting like they own the other person right away.
One common horror story is when the date is not understanding of the single mom's time constraints. For example, getting angry because she has to take care of her kids first. Another is when the date shows discomfort around the kids, like not wanting them to be around at all. And then there are those who seem interested in the single mom just to get close to her financial support system, if she has one.