I'm a married woman who fell in love with a doctor. Will we have a future?

My problem is very complicated: when I was 19 years old, I fell in love. Because of the complicated family situation, my boyfriend definitely did not agree with me. In a fit of anger, I broke up with my current husband on the third day, who was also the one my family insisted on marrying. I was very poor at that time and did not have any education.
Later on, they got married. During this period, they worked hard to earn money, study, and even take the postgraduate entrance examination. My husband and I are just like that, fighting every day, but I get along very well with my parents-in-law. I treat them very well, and they treat me very well. I just don't love a husband who married my money
When I was 25 years old, I had just started my postgraduate studies and had transferred myself to a very good place. Generally speaking, everything went well. At this time, I met this PhD student during my part-time job. He was just a little older than me. We mainly talked over the phone and online. I knew that he was very special to me, and so was he. Therefore, I didn't dare to meet him because I was already married. I also told him that I was not divorced.
In the first half of this year, I finally mustered up the courage to meet him. Everything was as I expected. Although I struggled for a long time, now I know that I love him. I think he loves me too. But what should we do? I never told him that I loved him because he had suffered so much and was about to graduate. I wanted to give him a good life and a marriage with his parents 'blessings. I couldn't walk by his side, but when I thought about not seeing him again. I can't stand it
What should I do? Will we have a future?
[Additional question: They met more and more frequently, and now they have to meet twice a day to be satisfied.] It was nothing much to meet, just to talk and eat. He now calls me 10 times a day. He also knew that there were a lot of problems between us. Sometimes, I really wanted to hug him and cry, but I was a very reserved woman. I was only 27 years old, but I was already as old as a 47-year-old (of course, I was very active in my work, only in my feelings). Every time this happened, I would lower my head and restrain myself from adjusting the expression on my face and pretending to be indifferent. It was really sad, especially when he was occasionally very gentle. I could not stand it and wanted to cry. Sometimes I think that no matter if he wants me or not, I will always be by his side. No matter what, I will not be discouraged because he wants me to give him some courage. Sometimes I think that there are still many good girls who like him after leaving me. I love him and I want him to be happy! Happy! He was healthy! If I want him to forget my happiness in exchange for a lifetime of pain, let him forget me ~ what should I do?
I didn't have any children because I didn't love my husband. My husband didn't want any children at first because he always threatened me with divorce. I was poor then. Later, I developed to earn 200,000 yuan a year. My husband started to treat me very well. I didn't care anymore.
Please tell me what to do ~ I'm a very stubborn woman. It turns out that I just graduated from technical secondary school. Once you set your mind on something, you must do it. Now I don't know what to do. I'm so distressed. Thank you for your help. The doctor is not married, and he doesn't have a girlfriend. My husband and I have negotiated divorce several times, but he has never worked in the past 6 years. He won't leave until he gives up his money tree.
[Additional question: Since I don't know how to vote, I want to hear what everyone has to say.] It was precisely because the doctor was not married and did not have a girlfriend. He was at a very good age and was from a famous university. In fact, he was very compatible with me in all aspects (narcissistic to say that I was very capable in life, except for relationships). However, I was married, so I was not worthy of him. Therefore, I was ready to disappear at any time, but he always found me after disappearing N times... Or I can forget him myself. What should I do?
I don't want to hurt my husband. My husband's family is relatives with mine. I've known him since we were young, but we're not close. I don't want to hurt my parents and parents-in-law, and I don't want to hurt the doctor. But if I want to live like this and never see him again, kill me.
The doctor knew about my situation. I didn't want to hide it at all. I told him everything.
I don't know what he thinks
He was very sad when I left him, and he said absolutely not, but I don't know if we'll be together in the future. It's probably very difficult.
I am responsible for my parents. My mother passed away when I was very young. In order not to let outsiders say that my stepmother treated me badly, I could not stay in the south after graduation, even though I found a job for myself in the south. For the same reason, my first boyfriend was poor. In order to prevent others from criticizing my family, my father had to break us up and let me marry my husband. I was very painful at that time, but I still listened to them.
I'm responsible for my husband: I never loved him, but I tried very hard to treat him well a few years ago. I've already had two miscarriages. To be honest, I really wanted to have a child at that time! At that time, I was 22. But my husband didn't want me to give birth. At that time, he despised my poor conditions. He despised my family's good conditions but didn't give him anything when I got married.
"By the way, even if I can't marry the doctor, I'll divorce and set my husband free. But my husband won't divorce me. I think he won't have a source of income if I leave him. What should I do? Besides the doctor, there are several others who already know that I'm married, but they still want me to divorce and marry them. Some of them are even better than this doctor. The most depressing thing is that they're all unmarried, but they're just ordinary friends." Because I never planned to marry anyone else before I met the doctor. After getting to know this doctor, I slowly realized that I couldn't leave him.

Answer 1

It's a difficult question to answer because the future is uncertain, especially in relationships. But generally speaking, Ph.D.'s usually have a high level of knowledge and professional skills, and they may be successful in academic research or industry. In addition, doctors usually need to spend a lot of time and energy on research and learning, which may affect their social life and family life.

If you fall in love with a doctor and he also loves you, then you may establish a deep emotional connection. You can explore new knowledge and skills together and pursue your life goals together. However, if your relationship is affected by family and other factors, you may face some challenges.

The most important thing is that you need to seriously consider your own feelings and marital status. If you're married, you should respect your partner and family and handle your relationship carefully. If you feel that you still love your partner and you are confident that you can build a healthy relationship, you can try to communicate with him to see if it is possible to end the marriage and start over.

No matter what decision you make, you must remain calm and rational and respect your choice.