He didn't have a good relationship with his mother-in-law! Because I don't have money, other than being successful, I really don't know how to deal with this kind of family relationship.

My wife and I were introduced to each other by my teacher. We have been married for almost a year now, and our child has just been born. I am from the countryside, and she is from the city. My family's conditions are very ordinary and we don't have much money. Due to the high housing prices now, I bought a small second-hand house in the city and almost spent all my money. Now, I only have about 3,000 yuan to work, and I have to pay a mortgage of 1,300 yuan every month. My wife is a teacher, and her family conditions are much better than mine. She is an only child and has a formal job. But she was willing to follow me. I told her about my situation before. I didn't have a good background. The house was second-hand and I even had a loan. But she said that it didn't matter. As long as she was good to her, she was willing. Her parents also said the same. As long as their daughter was willing, they didn't have any objections. That's why we didn't get a betrothal gift when we got married. I feel that her parents are very good to me. Sometimes, I feel that I've let my wife down. I feel that I've made her suffer. Our child was just born ten days ago. Before he was born, we would go to her house every night for dinner before returning to our own house. However, sometimes I feel that when my mother-in-law speaks, she is not satisfied with me. I can understand it. After all, her daughter is a treasure. To be fair, I was actually a person who was very popular with the elderly. I felt that I could deal with the elderly. However, in the past half a year, I felt more and more uneasy. Sometimes, I was afraid that I would say something wrong. As a result, I almost didn't speak much. Sometimes, I was afraid that if I said something wrong, her mother would immediately retort. I felt very uncomfortable. I had already paid great attention to what I said. Perhaps I still didn't do it well, or maybe I had always been honest with my family conditions. Now that the child was born, I felt that her mother had a long face when she was in the hospital. I knew that it was because my parents didn't give us the money. My mother came to the hospital to visit her daughter-in-law and grandson.(My parents live in the town, which is not close.) As she came in a hurry, she did not prepare any money, so she did not give them anything. However, she prepared a lot of nutritional supplements. Before my daughter-in-law gave birth to the child, she often mentioned to me how many gifts her grandparents would give to the child. She asked me how much my family could give. I said how would I know? I didn't even know that there was such etiquette. If I gave them, it might vary from person to person. Some would give them, and some wouldn't. It was impossible for me to ask my parents for the money directly, but I knew that there was no such thing as giving a greeting gift back in my hometown. So from the day I was born until now, my relationship with them had been very awkward. I gave my money to my wife now. It wasn't much to begin with. She didn't control my money and often asked me if I had any money. If I didn't, she would give it to me. Other than going to work for lunch and taking the bus, I basically didn't spend any other money. We saved up the money for the child slowly. She didn't expect that the cost of giving birth in the hospital would be quite high. She couldn't reimburse it and had to pay for it herself. That day, the child was hospitalized due to icterus and had to pay 4,000 yuan. I definitely didn't have the money with me. The money was with my wife. My wife said,"Look, the hospitalization costs money now. What should I do?" She looked very sad."Actually, we still have some money. It's just that she saw that my family didn't take it, so she said that." Her mother said loudly,"Why are you sad? It's not good for you to be angry after confinement. If you don't have money, I'll ask your father to withdraw 5000 yuan immediately." I know that her mother was saying this to me. At night, her mother came to the hospital to deliver food. As soon as she came in, she said to her wife,"Your father said to give the child 10,000 yuan and make a separate passbook. He won't tell anyone the password. I'll tell you when I need money in the future." I knew what she meant. I said,"Mom, I know what you mean. I won't use this money either. I know that she's afraid that I'll use this money. She said it on purpose to let me hear it. I felt very uncomfortable at that time. I had to suffer like this without money. When I left the hospital, I was really crying and felt that I was very useless. I could understand that her mother wanted me to have a good financial ability." After that, my mother said that we still have to give you some money. In addition, my father just happened to have a stroke these few days and needed to be hospitalized. Sigh, they really met all of them. I really don't know how to get along with her mother now. I don't want to go to her house too much, lest she gets angry when she sees me. I also know that this isn't good, but I don't know what to do. I can't stand that kind of atmosphere. Let's wait until things calm down.

Answer 1

He didn't have a good relationship with his mother-in-law because he didn't have money. He really didn't know how to deal with this kind of family relationship.

There are many ways to deal with such family relationships in novels. Here are some suggestions that might be useful:

1. Honest communication: Try to communicate with your mother-in-law honestly and express your thoughts and feelings, and try to understand her position and point of view. During the communication process, try to avoid attacking the other party and maintain calm and respect in order to reach a mutually acceptable solution.

2. Seek compromise: During the process of communication, you may need to compromise on some solutions that are acceptable to both parties. This might involve financial issues, family planning, or other aspects. By finding a compromise, we can reduce conflicts and enhance mutual understanding.

3. Pay attention to yourself: As a son-in-law, you should pay attention to your role and responsibility and do your best to contribute to the family. By working hard and studying hard to improve your ability and value, you can prove that you are a trustworthy and respectable person and also help improve your relationship with your mother-in-law.

4. Seek external help: If you feel that you can't deal with this problem independently, you can consider seeking external help such as seeking the help of a family counselor or psychologist or communicating with some experienced relatives and friends for advice and help.

Remember that dealing with family relationships is a long-term process that requires patience and hard work. Through honest communication, seeking compromise, valuing oneself, and seeking external help, he could gradually improve his relationship with his mother-in-law and establish a more harmonious and stable family relationship.